Ms. C and I have the same book challenge as RockyRoger. It does benefit our favourite secondhand bookstore when he turn in pristine copies for store credit.
I have lost friends and only heard about it long after the funeral. Do your friends' families know you are a friend?
Several times I've heard of deaths through chance links to Twitface, which I almost never use. It's not so easy to think of their families as friends when that happens.
That's the way our family does it too @Doublethink. It's been a motivator for me to begin tidying up my address book. It still had phone numbers of other parents whose kids used to play with mine 20 years ago.
I've developed a habit of checking the local papers online and the f-book pages of local funeral directors and in the last year I've seen notices for parents of either old classmates or work colleagues. Some requiring a card sent care of the funeral director and others not.
Aged Aunt has left me a list of her closest friends to notify on her death as she has no children. I'll check it with her when she visits in a few weeks just to be sure everyone on the list is still here!
My own personal feeling old episode is one from yesterday. Very pleased to have picked the cryptic clue from yesterday morning's radio program. It was a song, recognised by Cheery son as being in a film which is 30 years old next year, making me check the date of the song, 56 years old (urk)!!!!
On the whole, I find that returning to the old room does remind me what I left it for.
Oh you lucky lucky person. My brain is like the Middle of Lidl in these situations - when it's gone, it's gone.
I do find however that something non-work related I was meant to do during the working day will be completely forgotten from the moment I start to the moment I finish. At which point the lament "Oh bollocks" will issue forth.
That's a good idea. I'm always saying on a walk, I must google that, e.g. the Latin name for a bird, what a joke. 2 minutes later its fled from my mind, or what's laughingly called a mind.
I have lost friends and only heard about it long after the funeral. Do your friends' families know you are a friend?
There was an episode in Season I of Ripple after an absence of time, Walter returns to a group of men he would play basketball with. The friends start giving him jive about his wife. He tells them she died. They are left aghast. They did not know.
It is not only the friends of the spouse that did not know but the friends of the other spouse not knowing either.
@Doublethink, you mentioned putting death notices in the paper or calling through an old address book, but people often do not read papers anymore or the phone numbers in the address book are no longer connected.
I have been seeing death notices on Facebook pages now. I have had so many of them now, I can't keep track of who is still alive or passed on. It has gotten to the point if I see an old friend==like a school classmate--has died, I will end up unfriending the old classmate's FB page, not because I do not care anymore, but because I do not want to make the mistake of sending a Happy Birthday note to them when they are already gone.
I recently found out about the death of a former teaching colleague via the Old Girls’ Facebook page. I had guessed she was too ill to send Christmas cards or had even died, which actually happened before Christmas. She had few close relatives, but we did correspond a few times a year. There is nobody to whom I can send my condolences, but it is good to see the online tributes from former pupils. They haven’t forgotten a good teacher!
My weakness is books. I have been known, more than once, to see a book, think, 'wow, that looks good I'd really like to understand quantum physics/theology (or whatever) ', buy it and, putting it in the appropriate place in my bookcase ... next to a copy of the same book I bought last year.
I have been known to buy back books which we have donated to the bookstall at our church's Christmas Fair!
Well, to borrow from another thread, that is a win/win, if you ask me. The church wins because of your donation, and you win because you have retrieved something you liked.
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Several times I've heard of deaths through chance links to Twitface, which I almost never use. It's not so easy to think of their families as friends when that happens.
I've developed a habit of checking the local papers online and the f-book pages of local funeral directors and in the last year I've seen notices for parents of either old classmates or work colleagues. Some requiring a card sent care of the funeral director and others not.
Aged Aunt has left me a list of her closest friends to notify on her death as she has no children. I'll check it with her when she visits in a few weeks just to be sure everyone on the list is still here!
My own personal feeling old episode is one from yesterday. Very pleased to have picked the cryptic clue from yesterday morning's radio program. It was a song, recognised by Cheery son as being in a film which is 30 years old next year, making me check the date of the song, 56 years old (urk)!!!!
Oh you lucky lucky person. My brain is like the Middle of Lidl in these situations - when it's gone, it's gone.
I do find however that something non-work related I was meant to do during the working day will be completely forgotten from the moment I start to the moment I finish. At which point the lament "Oh bollocks" will issue forth.
Currently I am having problems hanging on to a thought if someone interrupts my flow with an unrelated comment (Mr RoS, I'm looking at you!)
I wish I'd started doing it years ago!
There was an episode in Season I of Ripple after an absence of time, Walter returns to a group of men he would play basketball with. The friends start giving him jive about his wife. He tells them she died. They are left aghast. They did not know.
It is not only the friends of the spouse that did not know but the friends of the other spouse not knowing either.
@Doublethink, you mentioned putting death notices in the paper or calling through an old address book, but people often do not read papers anymore or the phone numbers in the address book are no longer connected.
I have been seeing death notices on Facebook pages now. I have had so many of them now, I can't keep track of who is still alive or passed on. It has gotten to the point if I see an old friend==like a school classmate--has died, I will end up unfriending the old classmate's FB page, not because I do not care anymore, but because I do not want to make the mistake of sending a Happy Birthday note to them when they are already gone.
BTW Ripple is a good series on Grief and Loss
You are not alone!
Well, to borrow from another thread, that is a win/win, if you ask me. The church wins because of your donation, and you win because you have retrieved something you liked.