I found great comfort in the assurance that wherever my loved ones are right now, "none of that matters now". They are in a place of purest understanding and most infinite love, they are not looking at me through their mortal eyes, but through the eyes God gave them in order to be able to see everything in its proper and eternal context.
I am very happy to report that I have been invited to Thanksgiving at a local gay venue I go to for bingo, so I will be celebrating with other (living) people, and I will make my own stuff on Friday. Yay!
I have been invited to Christmas Eve dinner at a friend and his mother’s and Christmas Day dinner at a different friend and his mother’s. I will make my own Christmas food the day after that. I’m very glad to be spending both days with other people. ❤️
I have been invited to Christmas Eve dinner at a friend and his mother’s and Christmas Day dinner at a different friend and his mother’s. I will make my own Christmas food the day after that. I’m very glad to be spending both days with other people. ❤️
Very pleased to hear this news and hope you have a good time!
I am facing my first Christmas without my beloved wife, and I have no doubt it will be strange. I have been asked to spend a few days with cousins. They are lovely, warm people with many dogs. I think it will make it easier in some ways, harder in others. In some respects, odd though it sounds, I'd prefer to be alone. I will be 'acting', as I have learned to do with others. It's all a front. Inside, I feel dead.
I am facing my first Christmas without my beloved wife, and I have no doubt it will be strange. I have been asked to spend a few days with cousins. They are lovely, warm people with many dogs. I think it will make it easier in some ways, harder in others. In some respects, odd though it sounds, I'd prefer to be alone. I will be 'acting', as I have learned to do with others. It's all a front. Inside, I feel dead.
That's so hard. But very understandable. I do hope you can find some equilibrium in it all.
@Sighthound, I lost my husband three years ago, and I find that I still really want a quiet Christmas at home I have family before and after the 25th. It is no longer a sad time for me at all, but rather a comfortable one where I do not need to put forth much energy. I pray for your peace this season.
I am facing my first Christmas without my beloved wife, and I have no doubt it will be strange. I have been asked to spend a few days with cousins. They are lovely, warm people with many dogs. I think it will make it easier in some ways, harder in others. In some respects, odd though it sounds, I'd prefer to be alone. I will be 'acting', as I have learned to do with others. It's all a front. Inside, I feel dead.
Sympathy, @Sighthound, I've just come through the second Christmas since my partner died. I still would rather be alone but what you call 'acting' and I think of as 'a coping persona' is almost second nature by now, I just endure within and carry on as-if. Over the months and last year, that inner deadness is just part of who I am now, like the grief that sideswipes me when I least expect it. The kindness of friends has been a great comfort and I hope you find that too.
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You are too kind. Much love. 🫶🥹
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Praying you get well VERY soon!!!
Hope you make a speedy recovery @Gramps49 .
Very pleased to hear this news and hope you have a good time!
That's so hard. But very understandable. I do hope you can find some equilibrium in it all.
Sympathy, @Sighthound, I've just come through the second Christmas since my partner died. I still would rather be alone but what you call 'acting' and I think of as 'a coping persona' is almost second nature by now, I just endure within and carry on as-if. Over the months and last year, that inner deadness is just part of who I am now, like the grief that sideswipes me when I least expect it. The kindness of friends has been a great comfort and I hope you find that too.